Monday, August 1, 2011

A blog catch up.

So, My big project went fine. Everything got made, and the comments, well they were ace.

And it worked. I'm out of my rut. Infact, tonight is my only night in this week. Tuesday we're at a gig (Sevendust cancelled, boo!) Wednesday/Thursday I'm out doin stuff to help people. Friday is the lovely Chandra's 39th and Saturday Family catch up. Lucky I can play Rift in the mornings eh?
I have heaps of blog posts unpublished, will try and get those up ASAP.

Thursday, June 2, 2011


Ever see something you just go... WANT!
It's a Boba Fett meets Hello Kitty pendant.

I want one of these... this etsy store Hello Wars has such gorgeous stuff that really tickles my fancy!

I really love love the R2K2 stickers too.

Anyway, Enjoy!

Friday, May 20, 2011

Is it possible? Am I learning?

I admit I have a talent for getting myself out of trouble. After much narcissistic rereading of my last post I decided that I had to make this work. SO I've PLANNED! I've made a FB group for support me in my strategic planning, and revised the plan to the point where I really think it's doable. I've even budgeted it and requested an amount that I can spend before I have to start spending my own money.
So once again, I've gotten myself out of trouble... I think. We have personal growth! Babysteps. Baaaby Steps!
Its going to be hard work but I'm a lot calmer now.

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Biting off more than I can chew.. Yep I'm all class.

I've done it again. Volunteered for a project that I can do.
Well, I could do it if I had time and supplies.
But I'm a mum of three. I don't have the fricking time. I don't have the finances to do practice runs and I don't probably don't have the skills when it comes to it. I have the ability to learn, but I don't currently possess those skills and have no chance of learning them before I need to use them.

Why do I do this to myself! Maybe my subconcious knows the only way I'll grow and get out of this mummy-dead-brain rut is by extreme pressure?
Either way it's sure to be entertaining. Stay tuned.

I'm renaming it... PMI

I don't have Premenstrual Tension. It's not tension.
It's gimme-the-choc-before-I-kill-you-andstop-breathing-so-bloody-loudly-while-you're-at-it.

I have issues. Pre-menstrual ISSUES.

  • Issues with chocolate - I want it in vast quantities, even though its so bad for me in aforesaid vast quantities. (this may also apply to red wine on CD01!)
  • Issues with sleep - I can't get enough.
  • Issues with my partner - He won't stop touching me but 5 minutes later he's too far away or not home. Why can't he just read my mind, stupid male.
  • Issues with my temper - Everything is annoying and everyone is doing their best to piss me off!
  • Issues with temperature - It's too bloody cold! Even if it's 21 degrees in here.

See? I have PMI. There's no tension, just everyone else getting it wrong and nothing being right. Yep.
It's officially Pre-Menstrual Issues. Got it? o_O

Sunday, May 15, 2011

It'sYOUR job to be encouraging!

Shut your gob and listen girlies!
I'm sad tonight.
I've seen yet another case of a friend saying
"My marriage is hard work, I want out" and a dozen girls replying
"YEAH, leave his sorry ass!"
(cue pitchforks and burning brands).

I'm sorry. But since WHEN did it become our job to decide others relationships fate?

What happened to better or worse? Does worse only apply when it's glamorous? Do you imagine a man in a wheelchair (who still manages to be wickedly satisfying around 'o' just when the poor heroine needs release), doing his bravest to get back to full strength...      Is that what you think of as worst?

The truth is, often the worst is that apathetic state, when you've lost touch, sex is a chore if you can even bring yourself to do it, meals go unappreciated, quality time needs go unmet, dreams fade and a couple drifts further and further apart, wondering what they ever saw in each other. (Oh, this breaks my heart!)

When my marriage was failing, yet again, the best friend I had was the one encouraging me to try again, just one more time. To look at the problem from his point of view and to work with me on ways to get back 'on track'. Only when emotional abuse + adultery + my sheer, hysterical fear of his return from a business trip = my friend suggesting it was time to trial some time apart to see if I could let him close enough to me again work through the issues. She was gold. I could trust that she wasn't just telling me what I wanted to hear, what was easiest to say to get me to shut up so she could talk about her own issues.

I'm not suggesting we condone violence, nor serious mental or emotional abuse. But ladies, if your friend hasn't even asked her husband/partner to work on the issues, let alone waited for him to say yes/no to counselling, it's not your place to tell her to get out. It's your place to listen. Be a supportive friend. Especially if kids are involved, it's imperative they try everything else and then some to make the relationship work.

In good times, and in bad, for better or worse you are a best friend and should have her best interests at heart, not just the quick answer telling her the truth. Love your friend, want only the best for her, but use wisdom. Often the best is the personal growth that comes with renewal of an intimate relationship.

And remember, love is a verb, even in a friendship. Buy her a book, drive her to a counselling session, or ring around to find her an appointment. Be proactive in your love for your friend, so demonstrating how she can be proactive in her love to her partner. Sometimes it's just enough to kick us over the line into wanting to try again, when someone demonstrates active love.

OK, enough ramble. Just... think, really think before you speak.
This is someone's life you're speaking into.

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

philosophy of geek: Relationship Watch - Love is a verb

philosophy of geek: Relationship Watch - Love is a verb: "Do I believe my cousin still loves her husband?  Absolutely.  But I don't think she is "in love" with him, in that all consuming, no-longer-have-a-choice way that we feel when first we fall for someone.  At some point, love becomes a choice. "
When reading GRC's above post about  What makes relationships last I thought two things. First up, this.

Secondly, THAT'S US!!
For reasons that are not your business, my partner as never fallen in love with me.  He loves me yes.
But did he fall for me? No.
For my beloved, he's always chosen to love me. He decided that he wanted to be a family together. This makes me wonder, am I actually fortunate that he never 'fell' for me? While I miss sometimes that we didn't go through that amazing experienceof falling in love, I'll never have to worry that the gloss will wear off and he might fall out of love with me.

GRC also said:
You see your partner as a whole person, with all of their own nuance, flaws and graces. 
This was us when we began our relationship. We knew the whole person before us - We've known each other our whole lives, and we know each other inside out (though there are and have been definitely a few surprises!) it's just how it's always been.
There have been a few of those moments recently, (he's been absent in body and in mind a lot due to work) when I longed for a nice 'in love' memory to get me through the harder days, but thankyou GRC for the reality check.
I am loved and I love. In an active, verb sense of the word.

I miss you babe, hurry home. xo

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Kath V2: First Weigh In - Yee Haw!

Kath V2: First Weigh In - Yee Haw!: "I discovered the most delicious yoghurt yesterday - if you love yoghurt and coffee, The Yoghurt Shop make an absolutely stunning cappucino yoghurt!  Sadly, it's over 200 calories per tub :(.  But, fear not...I'm going to have a crack at reproducing a low fat, lower calorie version with the EasiYo tonight - so far looks like it would work out around 165 cals.  Mmmmmmmmm, coffee yoghurt..."

My dear Friend Kath is currently participating in Michelle Bridge's 12 Week Body Transformation. In her first week, she's lost a whole kilo. Go girl. But want to know why I'm really excited? She's having a go at making low fat Cappuccino Yoghurt! If it works, I'll nick her recipe and blog it out. Stay tuned!

Monday, February 21, 2011

Today's little thing - DG in the kitchen.

I was not well this morning and after staggering off to the school run, my son and I sat down in the Lounge, me with my cuppa nd him with his special juice and I asked him
"What would you like to do today DG?
The reply surprised me.
I was expecting 'park' or 'car'... He loves driving around aimlessly. He's one seriously awesome kid. He also has moderate to severe hearing loss, depending on the day, hence the one word answers.

DG instead said "bake a cake." He even told me what type of cake. It was cool.

I spent most of the day feeling like death warmed up, but in the afternoon, we baked a blueberry cake together. It was awesome. I've spent considerable time teaching my eldest about baking techniques and flavour balancing recipes (sweet/sour/salty/spicy etc) but it had yet to occur to me to be teaching 3 year old DG this too. Ofcourse he bakes, he's a great helper fetching things he can reach and blending flours for me. But from now on, when adjusting the flavours in a sauce or risotto, DG will also be included in the conversation. Unlike his big sister, who wasn't interested unless it was cupcakes and there were sprinkles involved, DG seems a bit more involved in the whole process.

Who knows, maybe he's the next Heston Blumenthal?

Thursday, February 17, 2011

Three Things

Three things I really don't like.

  • George Negus not getting the ratings he needs to continue. George is awesome.
  • Being told I don't share my feelings enough.
  • When my coffee mug gets lost and I don't find it again until it's cold.

Three things I'm disappointed about.

  • Retired swimmers coming back onto the scene and taking the places of younger swimmers. You've had your time, you retired. Now go away and get a real job.
  • Being ignored when I share my precious feelings.
  • The roses have finished blooming already.

Three things that make me angry.

  • People criticising politicians for private conversations. They're human beings too.
  • Working up the courage to share how I feel, and when I do share I'm ignored in the too-hard basket or turned all around to make it out that I am wrong for feeling that way.
  • Guitar hero four. It's just STUPID for vocal scoring.

Three things I am looking forward to.

  • Seeing Brisbane and surrounds rebuilt. I'd like to go visit later this year.
  • Reading the book my dear friend bought me as a pick-me-up over a dark Mocha at Theobroma tonight.
  • Going to my first GYM session! I can't wait to tone up evenly!

Three things I am grateful for.

  • Free Immunisations for my kids. I may choose not to have them done, but I'm so grateful that the option is there.
  • My Lily. She gets up in the night to tell me if the baby is awake and I haven't heard. She helps her brother with the bathroom. She is clever and funny and gentle and so beautiful inside and out.
  • Gloria Jeans's French Vanilla Decaf. Oh baby.

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Don't you wish sometimes you could write this note?

Dear Extended Family Member (friend/general relative/sister etc)
I love you. Don't do it.
Your Mum thinks it's a bad idea. Your Dad thinks it's a bad idea.
I think it's a bad idea.

I realise you know everything at 'that' age, but really, you don't.
Please listen to us.


There is nothing harder than watching a loved one make a huge mistake. Especially when you've made a similar one. I'm making it a habit to learn from other mistakes. How I wish I'd known enough to learn this way when I was younger.
Dear Peruser... What do you wish you'd learnt earlier? Have you learnt from anyone's mistakes?

Why Smokers Shit me.

Even as a former chain smoker - I resent the fact that I cannot get into the coffee club to get my hit without having to hold my breath or inhale second hand smoke. I doubly resent that I can't hold my baby or toddlers breath for them. I triple resent that they shoot me dirty looks when I wave the stench away from my baby or go obviously out of my way to avoid them on the footpath.

Dear smokers in public places: bugger off and kill yourself at home.

Dear smoker next door that floats stench in through my windows regularly: Bugger off to the other side of your yard. Ta.

Things and people that irritate me. Yes, I'm having a good old vent.

  • Coffee shops that can't make a decent coffee that doesn't contain milk.
  • People who have regular holidays, yet complain they need a break every few weeks.
  • People who don't have kids, stay up late and then complain they are tired.
  • People who don't or won't use you're/your in the correct grammatical context. It's TRULY. Not. THAT. Hard. 
  • Overfilled teapots at a cafe. Do they seriously never learn with hot tea spilled everywhere on a regular basis?
  • People who assume I'm not married because I don't want to be.
  • People telling me how lucky I am that my partner 'stood by me' when our princess decided to exist earlier than planned. How about He's lucky I didn't throw him out and sue him for child support.
  • People who give you an evil eye if your trolley contains junk food at the checkout, which get exponentially worse dependant upon the number of children I have with me.
  • Players who choose a level too high then expect the other party players to get them through songs to get extra stars on Guitar Hero.
  • My laptop's crappy space bar.
  • Being called a hippy/earth mother/out there because I choose not to birth in a hospital and I'm too cheap to use disposible nappies and bottle feed. I'm not a hippy, I'm a tight ass. OK?

Ok and here comes the big vent.
People who have NO EFFING IDEA what they ARE TALKING ABOUT and yet think their opinion is valid. GUESS WHAT! It's NOT. Your opinion is LESS VALID if you have NO idea or experience on the topic you are spouting off about. F You Mr Politically correct for asserting that everyone has a right to a public opinion. Guess what! YOU DON'T! If you don't have personal experience in a topic and you're addressing someone who does, Shut up and Sit down. Got it?

Why I blog.

I can vent away on my FB, but my mums mates and my old pastor reads it (yes I CARE!).
I could vent and post social commentary on the forum which I moderate...but I have to watch what I say and political correctness gets old quickly.
I have a food blog, but that's not the right place.

So to blogging of a non-culinary nature I have turned. Some of the posts have been hidden for a while and copied across to the public forum so if there's a few posts with the same date, that's why.

Me. xo